It should come as no surprise that the goddess of love, marriage, and romantic connections known as Shukra, who in Vedic astrology takes the place of Venus, also has the connotation of thanksgiving in the Arabic language. Venus is truly a manifestation of gratitude in its earthly form. This demonstrates that our level of inner balance as well as our level of balance with other people is dependent on our ability to form thankful relationships and to see the good that we are grateful for. This is in contrast to focusing on shadows, problems, and negative aspects of any segment of our lives or bonds that we make.
Even while Venus would be the ultimate embodiment of our adaptability as well as the thanks we feel for the conditions of our terrestrial existence, the feeling of gratitude itself originates from the Moon. When the Moon enters hard signs (Scorpio, Capricorn), the most important lesson it has to teach is one about being grateful for one’s complete support system and family tree (Capricorn) or for life itself. When the Moon enters Scorpio, it teaches a lesson about overcoming obstacles (Scorpio). When you observe people whose Moon is challenged by position, disposition, or aspects, you will notice that they see others as being ungrateful (which is a reflection of themselves), that they feel less recognised, and that they feel as if they have given their all, but all they have gotten in return is a broken heart. In spite of the fact that at times this may appear to be self-pity (or evolve into potentially damaging self-pity that isolates a person from any meaningful interaction), there are far larger concerns behind the scenes that are undetectable from the initial line of contact.
The Moon and the zodiac sign of Cancer are also symbolic of our family, particularly our mother, as well as all of the conditions that come with our first house, our upbringing, and the closest people we had in our life when we were young, fragile, and dependent babies. It not only speaks for the emotional but also the physical intensity of the love that we have for our moms, but it is also the symbol of our most fundamental needs. What therefore may we perceive when we see a person who is continuously aware of the absence of thankfulness in the actions of others? We have to face the fact that none of us are immune to this sensation, and we have all discovered triggers of a similar pattern in at least some of our relationships. This is something that we must all accept. Is it conceivable that our initial connection was contaminated by ungratefulness, if we are the ones who are the ones who keep repeating the cycle via our relationships with other people? Were our moms in some way disrespectful to their children?
Aside from the first interaction for the purpose of nurturing, the emotional capacities of our dads are intertwined with the matter. Their function may differ from ours in that they train us to be independent, self-reliant, protected on our own, dignified persons who pick the appropriate social circles; yet, in essence, they are the father’s version of the mother. The manner in which they treat the feminine during the process of creation of life, while the woman is pregnant and when she has a baby to take care of, speaks of the level of inner conflict we will carry within, choosing loyalties as if we must choose between our parents. This is because they treat the woman as if she has to choose between the two of them. At the same time as we discuss the mother as an archetype of the Moon and all of life’s feminine components, it is important to note that every father carries an equal degree of responsibility for his own inner feminine world at the moment when his kid is born. Were our forefathers the ones who did not show proper gratitude?
If we take into account the notion that each Soul agrees to the terms and conditions of their lifetime spent in one body, then the choices that an individual makes about their life, their family, and their circumstances are part of their own personal agenda. It doesn’t matter how we choose to look at this problem; the fact remains that every child that is brought into the world inherits all of the traumatic experiences, generational residues, anguish, and misery that their family has endured. In addition, a child is born loving their mother without conditions because the mother is the primary source of life and the first person with whom the child forms a link. In a sense, this indicates that each kid will eventually come to share their mother’s sorrows and will participate in all of her unpleasant feelings in addition to those that are happy and positive.
Growing up, in astrological terms, involves striking a balance between Cancer and Capricorn. This involves transitioning from our infant years, during which we have no personal responsibility, to our senior years, during which we have complete responsibility for our own life. To keep the love flowing, we have to embrace the fact that we were maybe considered as a burden rather than a blessing, branded to be who we never were, and yet we still discovered love and joy in life to decide that we WANT to be here in the first place. This is necessary in order to keep the love flowing. The fact that the mother did not see the significance of her child’s small size and its place in her own internal emotional landscape ought to be the cornerstone of any mature person’s capacity for forgiveness toward the mother. A wound brings about unawareness and numbness, while the accompanying agony normalises the experience of hurt. If only they had the ability to do so, all mothers would have used all of their resources in order to shower their children with unconditional love. Each of our moms has been severely hurt, just as we may be right now as a result of their lack of touch with us, and while it may take some time, it is inevitable that this will be forgiven if love is allowed to pour through wounded egos and anger.
A phrase that is used much too frequently is “forgiveness,” as if it were simple to just walk out of generational patterns and our deepest scars and say “this is alright, I accept it.” However, this is not the case. When we try to forgive our family for the lack of affection, attention, and gratitude that we experienced growing up, we must ensure that we do not overlook or disregard our own boundaries. Nevertheless, we need to be aware of the reality that what irritates us about the lack of thankfulness displayed by others is really only a reflection of our own lack of gratitude for life. Is there a limit to life? Were our parents obligated to offer us a gift more precious than life itself despite the fact that they themselves carried so many of their own wounds? Are we the ones to blame for being ungrateful and choosing partnerships that help us grow as people?
There is no place for responsibility or guilt in this situation. Every new baby takes their first breath of life, which is also the first breath of life itself, and this is how we all began. Keeping this in mind, our parents and every other member of our extended family showed their thankfulness for life itself and immediately taught us how we should respect our own lives. When we breathe our first breath, we are presented with the opportunity to learn our first lesson. If you are in the mood to forgive someone today, or whether you want to understand how appreciative or unthankful someone was to have your helping hand or your affection, ask yourself if the experiences that you had provided your life enough worth, and if it is now time for you to move on from those relationships. Perhaps the gift of life alone is sufficient cause for gratitude for each and every person who has ever been born.